i went there for three days with my parents last month 为什么是用went 而不用have been、 she lived in China for more than than ten

i went there for three days with my parents last month 为什么是用went 而不用have been、 she lived in China for more than than ten years but now she has returned to homeland.一样的,为什么用lived ,而不用had lived.我觉得有for都应该是用完成时.怎么区别呢.