I can still remember the sitting-room ____ my m other and I used to sit in the evening.

I can still remember the sitting-room ____ my m other and I used to sit in the evening.
I can still remember the sitting-room ____my m other and I used to sit in the evening.
A.what B. which C. that D. where
the village ___my mother grew up in is not far from the city
A what B whereCwhich ,Dwherever
后面一句缺了宾语所以用关系代词which（顺便一问,能用that吗）
但前面一句也缺了宾语为什么还能用关系副词where
求大神指教